For those who are suffering from grudges that won’t go away

Life's Troubles

You grudge them so much that you wish they were dead

In this article, I would like to talk about grudges.

There are people who still have a grudge against someone in their heart and hate them so much that they wish they were dead.

For example, if you have been bullied in the past, you may not be able to forgive him/her and every time something bad happens, it brings back bad memories that you don’t want to remember.

As long as there is a grudge, one cannot be happy

But as long as we hold a grudge, we cannot be happy.

This is because our hearts are not made to hold a grudge against others.

To the heart, thoughts of grudge are very unnatural; it’s like a heart that was originally round in shape and has become strangely distorted.

If you compare the heart to a round rubber ball, it’s like a part of it is crushed and deformed.

When the grudge is gone, the heart will become round again and the suffering will disappear.

Accept that it is 100% your responsibility

If you see it as a victim and a perpetrator, the victim may think that he or she is the one who was harmed and that there is nothing wrong with him or her. They will say that it’s all their fault and that there is nothing wrong with us.

However, this is not the truth.

As the law of cause and effect states, the person who is harmed also has some causes, and those causes and effects are manifested.

Therefore, there is no such thing as being able to blame the other person 100%. Rather, it all starts with accepting that the event that is happening is 100% your fault.

They are not the cause of your suffering; you are.

When you realize this, the grudge will quietly begin to break the ice.